Love is a calling beyond our control. I realized the ones I loved most, who caused me the most grief, were the same ones I harbored the greatest resentment toward. It was my inability to accept the truth that caused me so much discomfort. We are asked to make peace with the love we have for other people, understanding their ineffectiveness is a testament to pain. We must acknowledge love is a calling beyond our control and accept that the love will not go away, despite our irritation, or another’s inability to show up well for us; in the reconciliation of those facts, we begin the process of alleviating resentment.